the little girl crashed her kick scooter into the sofa earlier.

and promptly she exclaimed, FAR!


is that so-FAR (sofa)? or FUCK?

o.O

my little girl really melts my heart.. are all little girls like that?

her daddy was still at work when she was ready for bed.
so i accompanied her for awhile.

she was falling a asleep soon but she suddenly got up and call me with something in her hand.
i closed my eyes tighter and pretended to be asleep.
so she called me again and said "head head".
i got curious and opened my eyes.
she was holding out her pillow to me and repeated what she just said. this time more descriptive, pillow.. die (its lie, we are still working on that).. head..
she offered me her pillow! *heart in eyes

just as we are settling down to sleep, she offered me her prized craftholic bear too! =)

saw the cutest thing last night.

the little girl was trying to find her spot to fall asleep - on me.
she was lying on my stomach and the little one inside was moving.
r seems to be aware and she lay very still for awhile.
she started to touch my tummy gingerly and talking to it.
not sure what she talked to my tummy about but the little one inside seems to be responding to her jiejie outside with very hard kicks.
after awhile, she rolled off my tummy and when to sleep.

and we all went to sleep.

the much looked forward event of the year came and was gone in an hour during the weekend that just past.. lol..

kids dash 2015!!

this year stanchart's kids dash was held on the day before the main run - they have the all the attention to themselves!
they really look cute when they run la! wobbly wobbly one especially those younger ones.

i watched two rounds of run before rosanne's turn. each time when the horn goes off and the kids started to run with their parents, tears welled up in my eyes. just imagine these little people were just flipping, crawling neonates who can only lie there then became walking toddlers and now running kids!? can you imagine how proud their parents are? i am of my kid.

ok i am being emo here.


anyway, today i am being reminded by my little girl to enjoy the process towards a goal.
she was running, chasing, playing catch with her daddy and laughing.
she fell and she picked herself up.
she also stopped to smell the flowers watch other kids playing with balloons.
but the whole time, she was so happy and enjoying herself. maybe except the time when she fell and scrapped her knees. though she did not cry but till today, she will tell random people randomly that her left knee "pain". lol..
she was unfazed by the fact that she was the last few runner in the race.
AND she completed the race on her own.
ok maybe just that few steps that her daddy carried her but after that few steps she wanted to run on her own again..

she may be still young to understand competitiveness or the meaning of a race. but should not life be like that? at things that are suppose to be fun, we should just enjoy ourselves and not be too concern about winning or being better than others all the time. though she took longer than others to complete the race but at the end of the day she ran finish the 700m while enjoying herself. sounds like a win-win to me. :)

watching her run, i realised that in my fast-paced life, i am always busy with something physically and mentally - i forget to enjoy the process of things. thats probably why as i grew older i seem to enjoy lesser. :(

maybe this is what prof cheng was trying to get at during a talk few months back - mindfulness.
to be mindfully present at the moment - not just physically but mentally.

these few days, i have been consciously practising mindfulness while i am with the little girl. instead of replying to her while looking at my phone/tv/laptop, i put my things away and gave her all my attention. i observed her, watched her and caught her doing funny little things that made me laugh. i realised i am enjoying my time more with her now and was thinking less of 'how long more to her bedtime'.. lol..

ok.. enough of ranting for now.. lol..
ending off with my currently favourite photo of our little family. ;)

♥

check out my slim ankles!

no play of angle here. 

whats the point of that when i already showed everyone my fat trotters. 

hahaha.

not sure how did this happen though.
maybe it's because i ran 700m on sat?
maybe it's because i went for a swim on sun?
or maybe it's the ice cream and chocolate brownie i ate last night?

whatever it is, i am loving it!
honestly, i am quite scare that the fat trotters are real and i really gained that much of weight.
but seeing them so skinny this morning makes me relieved that probably its all just water..
=)

us. 

exactly 10 years ago. 

happy birthday. 

counting down.

december is here and its the last month of 2015! isnt that fast? =)


4 more days to rosanne's kids dash!

i am so so so excited for her! 

hope she would have fun and all the best for the hubs too who will be accompanying her. 

"Strollers are not allowed for the 0-3 years-old category, parents are encouraged to carry their children if needed."

my dad says the little girl would probably run 70m and the rest she would be carried by the hubs... hahaha..



5 more days to the hub's birthday! (but actually i got nothing planned.. bleah.)

11 more days to melanie's wedding and i will get to see meli too! YAY!

12 more days to ansel's birthday party!

17 more days to payday! AWS + bonus = SHOPPING!! WHEE!!!

23 more days to the first xmas party at our home!

24 more days to christmas! (eh... need to buy present for the little girl one anot arh... i never buy anything leh... =P)

31 more days to the new year.

and 6-8 more weeks to edd!


* update: i forgot to mention 36 more days to the little girl's first day at school! recently, i am quite jealous of little miss' life. she has so much things happening for her - went on a holiday without her parents (i had to wait till i was 14), going for her first marathon, going to school and going to have a baby sister!

my little girl is back!

today is one weekend morning which i did not mind waking up to little feet stepping on my face. =)

but she refuse to say yes when i asked her if she miss me!
T_______________T
she keep saying no no no!
fine, maybe she really dont miss me. =(

the hubs has been complaining that i dont cook for him anymore. so since the little girl isnt around this morning, i decided to cook for the hubs for his birthday! its a tat early but with a busy weekend coming up i doubt i would have time to cook or even to buy the ingredients.

actually i have been planning for quite awhile what to cook and when to cook. was searching online and i came across themeatmen. the food all looked so yummy! was considering between the salted egg dishes or cereal prawn and i choose the latter cus cereal seem more like less preservative choice.

so we went to the market in the morning and to get the ingredients. mainly the prawns, curry leaves, butter and cereal. actually it is quite a easy dish. =)

***

instructions:

1. cut and clean the 10 prawns

bought 10 tiger prawns at $22/kg. 

the above cost $12. 

2.  trim legs and devein prawns

3.  add half a beaten egg

4.  add 1/2 tsp salt, 1 tbsp plain flour, 1 tbsp corn flour

5.  deep fry at 170 degrees C for 2-3 mins

6.  drain and set aside

7.  pluck 20 curry leaves

8.  cut 4 chili padi

9.  fill bowl with 1 cup cereal, and add 1 tbsp milk powder, sugar, 1 tsp salt and chicken powder, then mix (i did not add milk and chicken powder)

10.  melt 50g of butter in pan, add curry leaves, then chili padi

11.  add cereal mixture and fry

12.  add prawns and mix well

TADA! done!

dinner is serve.. =)

today i learnt that the hubs actually likes doumiao. =))

mummy keeps reminding me that once my legs starts swelling again, 就是要生了.

this is my leg last night. =(

they did swell up in the second trimester. then they went back to normal.
today at 31 weeks, the swelling started again. not sure if its because i have been walking too much but they are really heavy to carry around. =(

the thing is.... i am not ready for the baby!
the room is not packed.
the clothes are not washed and mostly not arrived yet.
diapers also has not arrived.
milk bottles bought some but are like 9oz size. thinking if should get a few 5oz ones.
havent buy pump.
havent buy towels and bathing toiletries.
havent buy bedding accessories.
havent buy pyjamas for myself.

die le la... 

my baby darling girl is on her way to malaysia with her 婆婆 and will only be back on saturday.
T______________________T

this is her on the bus..

is that face saying that she would miss me too?

anyway, recently i think she is beginning to understand the word 'miss'.
she stayed over at her grandparents house last friday. on saturday when i saw her, i asked if she miss me. she usually will stare blankly back at me but that day she nodded her head and said yes!

and last night her daddy came home late and was tucking her into bed. so he casually asked her if she misses him and she said, yah... =)
i think her daddy melted on that spot. hahaha..

ok back to the topic of how much i will miss my baby..

taken this morning by her 婆婆.

actually this morning, i checked on her thrice. =(

i told her to be good, i told her i would miss her and to come back to me cus i will be waiting for her ='(

seriously i thought this would happen like only in another 20 years time? =(

really going to miss her so much. =(

birthday date.

we went on a little date yesterday - just my girl and i.

although it started to rain, we still went ahead with our long awaited outing, but i took her to a nearby neighbourhood mall instead of town.

this is actually the first time i took her out on my own ever since bump#2. was quite scare if she would to misbehave or run around like a monkie but thankfully she was quite all right. ;)

though we have been to the same mall frequently, yesterday was the first time she ran into the smiggle shop.
she "wah" and "wow" at everything she saw like a mountain tortoise.
she also took things she found interesting down from the shelves AND put them back after exploring them. #ididnotteachherthat
she was so good that i wanted to buy her something from smiggle. ;(
but i did not lah. she wont be able to use them till like eons later and it would be just waste of money..

took her to a toy shop instead where she randomly picked up soft toys and gave them hugs..
-_-" so much love this little girl.

checking out the toys.. 

so well behaved right? so proud of her...

we left the shop 30mins later with no broken toys or pockets. ;)
so proud of myself too..

we ran some errands and took photo for her school.

aiyo.. why her hair like octopus!?

to give or not to give? sigh. 

take again?

the hubs said that i should wax her hair or something...

finally we ended our date with the highlight and sole purpose - to eat ice cream and fries!

i tell you, this little girl is just too sweet for words.
and i have no idea where she gets it from.

every time i finished my fries.. 

.. she would give me fries from her share..

tada, i now have fries again.

.. and this is her asking me to Ahhhh... 

- to eat my fries cus i was busy taking photo of her. 

:)

we head home after our munchie session cus it was past her nap time and was getting a little cranky..

thank you little girl for dating me. :)

happy birthday!

source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3294983/Sarcastic-mother-charts-sleep-babies-REALLY-getting-make-feel-smug-newborn-f-cares-aged-two.html

jels send me this yesterday..

she looks kinda lonely here though.. 

or maybe its just the photo.. lol.

but suddenly i am glad that in another 105 days she would have a sibling to play with.
i am actually more excited for her than myself. lol

anyway, the little one in the tummy loves her jie jie.. or maybe..
every time she hears her jie jie's voice / cries, she would start to move around a lot. a lot.
may be saying, hey i want to play with you too!
or may be she is just saying, no dear the noisy monster who loves to squash me is here again..
=P

was browsing my blog and i saw this.

thinking back the first 16 weeks of this pregnancy #2, this baby better be a genius or something to make the morning sickness that i have suffered worth it..

i was just nausea and only could eat what she crave when i was with rosanne.
till 16th weeks into that pregnancy, i lost almost 4kg. at then i thought that was a lot.

but this time round with all the puking and food aversion (totally no food cravings), i lost like almost 7kg?
am finally (23-24th week) back to my pre-pregnancy weight.. lol.
why nobody tell me i was that fat then!!
-_-"

just a note to self. :)

***

10 traits of a well-rounded child
Written by Darla Noble


1.  HAPPY

A happy child is one who is made to feel safe; both physically and emotionally. A child who knows he/she is valued for who they are and not what they do or don’t do is a happy child. Parents raise happy children by spending time with them, communicating with them, sharing life with them and allowing them to be the unique person they are. The buying of things and enrolling them in one activity after another to keep them busy is not happiness.

2.  OUT-GOING

The key to raising a well-rounded child who is out-going is to introduce them to a variety of situations. Don’t allow their world to revolve around your family and their friends. Share together in volunteer activities within your community and church. Expose them to the wisdom to be gained by spending time in a nursing home helping elderly people. Expose them to those less fortunate by working with a food pantry or soup kitchen. Another form of being out-going is to broaden their horizons when it comes to eating. This is a true pet-peeve of mine. My children were all good eaters. No, they don’t like everything (neither do their dad and I), but they were always willing to try something. My niece and nephew, on the other hand, won’t. These kids are 11 and 14 and won’t lasagna (it looks gross), hamburgers (ew!), chicken and dumplings (it looks like lumpy milk)…the list is ENDLESS! It gets old going out with them or being at family gatherings only to hear them whine and turn up their noses at perfectly delicious food. Don’t let this be your child. Encourage them to be food-adventurers. Cook ethnic foods together for the family. Children are usually more eager to eat what they’ve had a role in preparing.

3.  SMART

Excite your child about the opportunity to learn. Make learning a part of who your family is. You can do this by including educational outings on vacation, taking nature walks, going to local museums and theatre productions and by reading, listening and discussing. Read to your child. Read for yourself and encourage your child to do the same. Let them read what interests them, though. It doesn’t hurt to expose them to different genres, but in the end, reading what interests them is better than not reading at tall. Talk about what’s going on in the world and in your community with your older children. Answer their questions, share your views and invite them to share theirs. Be involved in their school and in their education. Communicate regularly with their teachers, be plugged in to any online parent portals that allows you to monitor your child’s progress in school, volunteer in your child’s school and talk to them about what they are learning. Spend time helping younger children with the usual spelling lists, math problems and quizzing for tests. Older children may or may not want/need help, but make sure they know you are available. REMEMBER: No child is perfect so perfection should not be expected in school. As long as a child is doing their best, that’s all you have the right to expect. Their best isn’t always going to be the best. In fact, their best may rarely be the best, but that’s okay. As long as they’re learning to their potential that’s what matters.

4.  RESPECTFUL

Respect is the root of a solid, moral character. A child who is raised to be respectful of authority, themselves, others and the rights and belongings of others is a great kid and you should be proud and thankful. Teaching respect from a very early age is essential. And one of the best ways to teach respect is to a) give respect and b) demand respect. To demand respect does NOT mean to lord yourself over your child as the authority figure and use your authority as a weapon of control. To demand respect is to: Set clear boundaries early on as to what is allowed and expected in regards to speaking to one another, participation in household chores, moral and religious beliefs and acceptable vs. inappropriate actions and attitudes. Live up to the expectations you set for your children in the home, on the job, towards extended family and in the community. Treat your children the way you wish to be treated. This also applies to respecting their belongings and their privacy.

5.  OBEDIENT

The easiest way to raise an obedient child is to be consistent, fair and firm. Don’t confuse a child by allowing something one day and blast them for the same thing a few days later or when in public. Don’t ride them to the point of exasperation. Parenting requires a great deal of grace. Kids are kids-they’re going to forget. They’re going to do things that fall beyond your standards of cleaning. They’re going to lose their homework once in a while. Be fair by not expecting more from them than they can give. Be fair by letting them know up front and in advance what you expect of them. Grace is one thing, but letting a child get away with anything is quite another. Withholding boundaries leaves a child floundering and scared. By setting firm limits and by leaving no room for questioning whether or not there are consequences to actions (both good and bad) gives your child the sound footing they need and want. We all do better when we know what is expected of us and what to expect in return.

6.  PRUDENT

To be prudent means to be cautious. It means to think before acting and/or speaking. A prudent child is one who knows how to choose friends who will enhance their life rather than bring them down. A prudent child is one who recognizes danger online and from those they meet in person. A prudent child is one who considers the consequences of their actions. So how do you instill that in your child? By communicating with them. Talk to them about the dangers of the internet. Make sure they know the importance of not sharing personal information or communicating with people they don’t know-and know well. Talk to them about the consequences of actions and the long-range effect they have. Prudence is also learned by living it-or not. A child who speaks before acting should be made to live with the consequences of their actions (discipline, etc.). A child’s internet usage should be monitored. You should also instruct them as to how to react to strangers, instruct them on how to react to stranger danger and also teach them the difference between a stranger and meeting someone new (an elderly relative or neighbor, for instance).

7.  CONFIDENCE

Raising a confident child is done by: Allowing them to make mistakes. Don’t shame or embarrass your child. Success is nothing more than getting up one more time than falling down. Allowing them to be themselves. Study your child. Discern what their learning style is and then provide them with the necessary outlets to excel. Letting them find their niche. This doesn’t mean enrolling them in everything that comes along, but allow them to try a variety of activities to find that one thing we all need to own as ours. For some children this comes sooner than it does for others. WARNING: If their ‘thing’ isn’t yours, don’t push to change them. Embrace their uniqueness. Reminding them daily that they are loved, special, unique and not perfect.

8.  COMPASSIONATE

Selfishness is one of the biggest cancers in society today. We need to raise up a generation of children who look beyond their needs in favor of someone else’s. Teaching your child to be compassionate comes when you, yourself, are compassionate. Work alongside them in times of need in your community. Encourage them to befriend the shy child, the new student or the child no one seems to want to play with. Use the holidays as a kickboard to open your child’s eyes to the needs of others and to the fact that even if in a small way, he/she has the capability to meet some of those needs. Never allow your child to speak ill of others’ economic status, their living conditions or lack of money. Do not allow your child to make fun of others and teach them the value of kindness to everyone. Oh, and did I mention that the only real way to do this is to be that way yourself?

9.  HUMBLE

Humility comes from recognizing the accomplishments of another above your own and being sincerely happy when someone earns recognition and praise. Don’t be afraid to let your child loose. Play board games with them and don’t loose on purpose. Life isn’t always going to declare them the winner and they should know that early on. Don’t make excuses for their loosing (the other kids cheated, you weren’t feeling up to par, it was unfair to begin with…). Model humility. Allow others to shine instead of you when they deserve to. Don’t do things for the sake of what it will bring you, but rather for the good it brings to others. Provide opportunities for your child to do the same.

10.  LOVE

Where there is love-real love-there are all these other things. Love seeks to put the needs of others above your own. It doesn’t hold grudges and isn’t conditional on what a loved one is or isn’t capable of doing or bringing to the relationship. It simply is. The love of a mother for her children simply is. There’s no way around it. Oh sure, there are days when we’d like to pinch their little heads off, but the minute someone else looks at them funny, we’re ready to pounce. And that’s as it should be. Love isn’t blind to imperfections. Love is just willing to love in spite of them.

http://sg.theasianparent.com/10-traits-of-a-well-rounded-child/?utm_source=taboola&utm_medium=dailymail-row

Tom Kha Soup - The Delicious Miss Dahl - BBC Two

 


the hubs ordered this..
so keeping it here till i have time to do it.. hahaha..

so if you havent got the hint from my previous post...

WE ARE EXPECTING BABY #2!! ^_____^

aint she cute?! =)

we are currently 23 weeks plus, still have a long long way to go..

was searching online for baby names ideas.
didnt know where to start so begin to search for 'rosanne' hoping that the website may provide some names for siblings of rosanne. #ithinkiamsosmart
and i saw this...

 http://www.sheknows.com/baby-names/name/rosanne#.

expression #5 sounds somewhat like her!

People with this name are excited by change, adventure, and excitement. They are dynamic, visionary and versatile, able to make constructive use of freedom. They fight being restricted by rules and conventions. They tend to be optomistic, energetic, intelligent, and to make friends easily. They may be changeable, restless, untidy, and rebellious.

when we named her, we just hoped that she will be a graceful rose.. did not read much into the name..
i think this time we have to be more careful.. lol..

***

我的大眼妹!

what's with these pregnancy dreams anyway..

last week, i kept dreaming of morbid stuff...
death of both people i know and strangers on the street, witnessing death, getting lost in the forest, dropping off a cliff and a killer whale ate a buoy outside my bedroom. -.-"

the ultimate was dreaming of my own death.
i was in a accident and survived. was in some old england country not sure where and they decided to have a ceremony for me in a church.
i was to choose the details of decoration, flowers and etc. 

but somehow i felt disconnected to the people around me. they asked me questions but it seems like they were unable to hear me but yet they just continued talking.
when the ceremony was prepared i realised it was my own funeral that i am preparing.
and i realised i have to die after the ceremony...
i started to cry and shout how unfair it is and i dont want to die yet..
daddy stroked my hair and told me that how sad he is that things turn out like this. what he said is not replying to what i said..
it ended with me shouting to the dodo that i really dont want to die yet, i havent use my new mascara..... -________-"

after that night, i was a little scare to go to sleep. =(

and last night, i dreamt that i was divorced.. T.T
i met the hubs on the streets one day and realised both of us are no longer wearing our rings. so sad...

was home alone with the little girl this morning.
she made a poo and so i gave her her morning bath and played a little with her..
when it was time to get out of the shower she ignored me and continued to play with her toothbrush.
-_-"

so i said ok, mummy give you five more minutes ok?
she said yes.

she was actually slowly sipping water from her yellow cup and gargling her mouth.
which was cute to watch. hahaha.
but i went to put away her bathe stuff and after the five minutes, i went back to collect her.

me: rosanne, its time to get out of the shower!
her: 싫어!

-_____-"


really!? did i watched too much korean? or its just her shichida class?
but i am very sure of what i heard!

my little girl is really sweet..

this morning, she hovered around me asking me to wear my shoes so that we can go out.. she even help me take my shoes and placed it at my feet.. then I told her I haven't wear my sock so she started to look for my socks for me.. after probably about 10mins she gave up and put my shoes back in the corner. 

but when she saw me wearing my socks, she quickly took my shoes and placed it at my feet and even attempted to help me put them on.. :) 

but mummy never say thank you and even chase her with her monster socks.. 

hahaha.

i keep finding weird things in my laundry.
the other day was a spatula and measuring cup and today was this...

lol.

let's play pretend!

Why playing silly jokes is the best lesson for children: Clowning around helps young make friends and think more creatively by Colin Fernandez, Science Correspondent For The Daily Mail

Serious-minded parents may want their children to excel in life by teaching them Chinese or advanced physics. But scientists have found that in fact silly play – such as an adult putting a toy chicken on their head - helps a child develop abstract thought.

As well as joking, playing ‘let’s pretend’ is also a vital way for children to learn important life skills, such as maintaining relationships, creativity, and generally enjoying life researchers argue.

Children as young as 16 months old learn the difference between an adult joking and playing ‘let’s pretend’ from picking up on their parents’ cues.

Researchers from Sheffield University carried out two studies. One involved parents being asked to joke and pretend with their 16 to 20-month-old children. Jokes involved misusing objects like putting food on their heads, while pretend play included activities like washing hands without soap or water. In the other study, parents of 20 to 24 months old were asked to joke and pretend verbally with their toddlers. Pretend play included parents telling their children a round block was a horse and jokes included mismatching items like saying that a toy chicken was a hat.

When pretending, parents showed more ‘belief’ in what they did. The study found a mild difference between the sexes in whether they preferred joking or pretending. The authors noted: ‘Girls were perhaps more engaged in pretending than joking compared to boys.’ Dr Elena Hoicka, from Sheffield University’s department of psychology, said: ‘The study shows just how important play is to children’s development.

‘Parents who pretend and joke with their children offer cues to distinguish the difference between the two and toddlers take advantage of these cues to perform. ‘But if parents were pretending that, for example, a block was a horse, they might repeatedly make the block gallop, which would encourage children to do the same, and understand that the block really was a horse in their imagination.’

She added: ‘The research reveals the process in which toddlers learn to distinguish joking and pretending. Knowing how to joke is good for maintaining relationships, thinking outside the box, and enjoying life. Pretending helps children to practice new skills and learn new information. So while parents may feel a bit daft putting a toy chicken on their head they can at least console themselves with the knowledge that they are helping their children develop important skills for life.’

Future research projects will include parent surveys on joking and pretending to see how these abilities develop from birth through to three years old.





http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3183280/Why-playing-silly-jokes-best-lesson-children.html#ixzz3hiQ8FSDB

I am sitting here at the pool watching the little girl in her new float. she is kicking water so well and I am so proud of her. glad and thankful for the husband's patience and commitment to bring her to the pool on weekends :)

that's a blur photo of them together and you can see the little girl kicking water :)

my little girl and i were hiding from her daddy earlier at bathtime.

we were under the blankets and was doing a good job keeping quiet...
she even put her finger on her lips to ask me to stay silent.

until her daddy asked, rosanne.. where are you?


she shouted "here!" from under our hiding place and pop out of the blanket. -_-"

and so..

my little girl can fist bump!

not sure if it is from the cartoon but when her gong gong ask her randomly today to fist bump she gave him her fist! she is alway full of surprises!

last night was the first time the little girl slept on her own.

I woke up in the middle of the night by the sound of her cries.. I jumped out of bed and quickly ran to her room. 

it was bright and cool in her room.. she was crying and trying to get back on to her bed.. I scooped her up and hugged her tightly. turn off the lights and fan and we went back to my room, decided that this is enough for a night in her own room. 

I placed her in between the hubs and I but she preferred to sleep on my side.. I gave her reassuring pats to calm her down.. after fifteen long minutes, she stopped her sniffles and beginning to drift off to lala land... 

but something in my head is not clicking.. did I off her lights and fan? LIGHTS?? who on the lights?? but it was bright in her room - the light was surely on.. but the remote is on the top shelf in her wardrobe and is pretty hard for her to reach.. so who on the lights?

today is the second day of may.
nothing special just another day of the year.
maybe just a little special - it's the day after my little girl gave me a flower she picked from the pool :)

see my flower nice?

anyway, this is the little girl having dinner on her own!

the hubs was not around and the parents went for a wedding dinner, so the dodo came over for dinner.
she made us muffins and tuna bake for dinner.
i placed the bowl of dinner in front of the little girl expecting to be feeding her all the time.
but she took up her spoon and fork and started eating on her own! how amazing is that!

so the second day of may, 

my rosanne ate her whole bowl of tuna baked on her own!

#mysmartlittlecookie

on my way home now after the shichida parent education class. glad that i was able to make it in the end cus it gave me an answer to the thing I had in my mind for days.

so this was what happened.. on sunday i tore a light stick out of her hand to force her to share it with her cousins. at that moment, i was just so upset that my kid is selfish and cant seems to make her share no matter how i tried to make her.

it wasn't till when i was lying in bed going to sleep i saw my actions. what i did was horrible and i felt bad. i felt that yes i have to teach my selfish kid to share but i do not think my action showed her how. i was bullying her to make her share.

action speaks louder than words.

but before i go on, i must say that i do not see snatching and not sharing the same problem. snatching is plain rude. yah, she snatched things she wants which we have since taught her to say please if she wants something though it is still a work in progress but i am not talking about that today. 

the past few days i have been reading articles online to find ways to deal with a selfish child and how to make them share - 11 Ways to Teach Your Child to Share.

after reading, it pretty sums up that the little girl is at that phrase when she starts to understand possession and developing a strong sense of self. she is at the phrase when "selfish" steps in. and they only can learn what sharing really is when they are about six (today, at shichida, their research found that kids before six are just mirroring what they see). now, they will share because they are taught to do so. the more i read i more worse i felt.

she cannot help it that she does not want to share - her brain has not develop the sharing part yet. and me, the adult whom she should be trusting the most, instead of understanding her and helping her, I SNATCH A TOY FROM HER! man, what i have i done.. #welldonemama

i did not showed her how to share, instead, i showed she how to snatch. #badmama

today at the shichida method, we were taught that children before six learn through mirror/reflecting others. and they encourage parents to use love to teach the children.

thinking about it now, the things she does not share are things she really like. she does "share" sour strawberries and biscuits which she had ate a few times before. hahaha. so maybe she is not that hopeless in sharing. today i am encouraged to continue to slowly grow my rosanne-plant. i am going to try their method to help rosanne and hopefully it works. =)


anyway this is a photo of her this morning to make this otherwise only-words-post more interesting.. lol.

thats her taking a long long long time to put the four coins into her piggy bank. 

cant believe she actually said 'bear' when i asked her if she wants anything from her bed.
she is learning heaps and bounds nowadays!
my baby, can you stop growing already.. ^.^

tee hee hee.. this is my "baby" #b4ileavethehousetoday

i think she is having growth spurt? 

cus usually she does not wake up so early wanting milk. 

or maybe she dream about milk and woke up signing for milk. lol.

on the side note, thats the snoopy onesie i got when i was still in the first trimester with her.
once i saw it, i knew i have to get it for her, not lucy, not sally, not charlie brown but snoopy - my long time love since ever.
even only having 18-24 months old size did not stop me from buying it for her though it means she i have to wait a long long long time before she can wear it.. lol.

maybe i should be starting a hashtag #rosannesleepystories.. lol
she always does funny/sweet/silly stuff at bed time.

recently she learnt to tuck herself in in our bed.
she will lie on the hub's side of bed and pull the covers up. her hands will be out giving the duvet a few pats before settling down..

sometimes she thinks my side is nicer and would roll over me and take my spot..
and sometimes, she will make me pat her butt. she will pretend to snore as long as i am patting her. lol.

few nights ago, she roll right up beside me. i thought she wanted to take my spot again but when I looked at her, she has already settled herself comfortably on the other half of my pillow and was smiling at me.. :)

the best part she fell asleep sharing a pillow with me :)))

I think my girl ran out of things to entertain me la..

last night she stick her finger into her mouth and smear that fat drool dripping finger on my thighs.. then she pointed at it and 'Eeee' at it.. -_-"

she kept doing this until I 'Eeee!' at it too and then it seems like I have said the magic word and she cover her mouth and start to giggle..

after an hour rolling on the bed, she finally felt tired enough to go to bed.

she took my hand to pat her butt. she rolled away with her back facing me and started to snore... and when i stop patting she takes my hand and pat her butt...
-__________-"

water babies!

this have to be my favourite!

the hubs would love this.. ;)

source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3027787/First-dogs-babies-Photographer-captures-tiny-tots-underwater-entertaining-picture-book.html

pray and let it be "fats"....

took the little girl to the clinic last monday cus she was have diarrhea. i usually just monitor her when she was having diarrhea cus it usually just meant that she is popping new teeth and it usually clears up after a day or two. what made me worried was she pooped in the wee hours which she havent done so since 3 months old. so i was worried that it might be serious even though she seems her happy usual self.

do you know that there is no medicine for child below 2 for diarrhea?

#baby101

anyway the doctor was checking her tummy and found a uneven bump on the right side of her belly button. she was concern and felt that it should not be left un-diagnosed. so she wrote a referral letter and told me to bring her straight to the a&e.

at the triage, the nurse examined her and explained her condition in layman terms. we got to see the doctor within 20mins (WOW!)

the a&e doctor is quite sure that it is just fats. -_-"
but has schedule her to see a specialist tomorrow just to be sure is nothing else.



taken from the mayoclinic.org:

An umbilical hernia occurs when part of the intestine protrudes through an opening in the abdominal muscles. Umbilical hernia is a common and typically harmless condition. Umbilical hernias are most common in infants, but they can affect adults as well. In an infant, an umbilical hernia may be especially evident when the infant cries, causing the baby's bellybutton to protrude. This is a classic sign of an umbilical hernia.

Many umbilical hernias close on their own by age 1, though some take longer to heal. To prevent complications, umbilical hernias that don't disappear by age 3 or those that appear during adulthood may need surgical repair.

its been a month and i still will tear up when i think about her.
found this photo yesterday while doing up some photo calender for the parents.

us at a happier time. :)

in here, she looks as pretty and happy as long as i can remember.

am really missing her so much now... 

the ages that define the life of every woman

interesting read ;)

12 The average age at which a girl becomes a woman is 12 years and seven months — although the exact timing of her first period will follow that of her mother, according to scientists at the University of London. They found that genes play the dominating role in the onset of menstruation, along with physical and environmental factors.
14 Forget the terrible twos. With hormones kicking in, a girl is at her most tricky to deal with at the age of 14. Parents of teens interviewed for one study claimed that sulkiness and tantrums hit their peak at this age, due to conflicts over boys, make-up and drinking.
16 A year after her first kiss, at an average age of 15, the next important landmark for a girl will be losing her virginity. It seems that the age of consent is still relevant, because for most girls, it’s still 16 — a year after the average age for boys.
18 Having lost her virginity two years earlier, by the age of 18 a young woman is by now sexually experienced enough to enjoy her first orgasm with a partner.
20 Even though the average girl today has been sexually active for four years by this stage, ideally she should have waited until 20 for the best chance of happy future relationships. Researchers at the University of Texas found those who waited to have their first lover were better educated, went on to have better paid jobs and enjoyed more satisfying marriages.
22 The bland foods we liked as children are no longer enough to suit a woman’s more adventurous palette. Tastebuds stop regenerating as quickly at this age, enabling us to find stronger flavours, such as anchovies, more palatable.
25 You may not be able to tell from looking at pop star Taylor Swift, but 25 is the lowest point for a woman’s sexual confidence, due to worries about not having the perfect body and comparisons with how other women perform in bed.
27 Women will fall in love on average four times during a lifetime and most will ‘settle down’ at the age of 27 — with a third being lucky enough to stick with their first love.
28 Although many women are in long-term relationships by this age, it seems the desire to play the field is still strong. This is the point when they are most likely to cheat on their partners.
29 The best age for a woman to snap up a property with her partner. This gives her time to upgrade to a bigger home when babies come along, and also means she’ll be mortgage-free by 61, according to an HSBC report.
30 It’s not always clear which comes first these days — but as well as 30 being the most common age for a woman to marry in the UK, official statistics say it’s now also the average age for a woman to have her first baby.
32 After years of chopping and changing, it’s at 32 that women finally achieve their perfect hairstyle.
34 This is the best possible age at which to give birth. Sociologists looking at the birth experiences of 3,000 women for the Journal of Health and Social Behaviour found that those who delayed having a child until now had fewer complications (before the risks start to rise again with age), and were also more emotionally mature and financially secure.
35 As they juggle work and parenthood, this is the age when women feel most stressed. If a woman hasn’t become a parent now after trying, it’s also at this age that she is most likely to start IVF, reports the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority.
38 After getting their feet under the desk, 38 is the prime age to take a career break or go travelling. Researchers found that by now women feel financially stable and sufficiently well-established to take a break without their career paying the price.
39 The average woman will be getting her highest salary now, but over a lifetime in work, she will earn 20 per cent less than a man in the same role, according to EU statistics.
40 Life has to begin (again) at 40 for many women because this is the average age at which she is most likely to divorce, according to the Office for National Statistics. Men will be 43 at the time of their first marital break-up.
47 Helen Mirren may not have got the memo before she was so memorably pictured in a two-piece red swimsuit at the age of 62. But 47 is the oldest age that most women feel comfortable in a bikini — going for one-pieces on their next birthday. It is also the age when women believe their looks begin ‘fading fast’.
49 It’s time to slip back into baby mode for many women at this age. This is the birthday when you are most likely to become a grandmother for the first time, report researchers at the Future Foundation. During her lifetime, the average granny will go on to have 4.07 grandchildren.
50 There are mixed blessings for women at 50. The good news is that it’s the average age when women become debt free, due to a combination of rising salaries and being left an inheritance. But visible signs of old age are advancing fast. While men tend to start going grey at the temples, women are also likely to be greying at their partings. A study published by the British Journal of Dermatology found that by 50, between 63 and 78 per cent had some grey hair.
51 This is the age at which most women finally stop having periods. It may not be a coincidence that this is the also the age when women believe they become invisible to men, who stop giving them appreciative smiles or open doors for them.
52 There may be a good reason that, at this age, actress Demi Moore looks so youthful. Saga magazine found that this is the moment when women are most prepared to entertain the idea of plastic surgery, with eyelid lifts being the most common procedure, followed by facelifts and dermabrasion.
55 At this stage in her life, a woman most feels like the filling in life’s sandwich. A University of London study which followed the lives of more than 17,000 women born in the same week found that 55-year-old women take on the lion’s share of caring responsibilities for younger and older relatives. On the upside, 55 is also the average age of British millionaires, around 40 per cent of whom are women.
58 It may have been a long time coming, but it turns out that 58 is the age women feel they have finally got that elusive work-life balance under control. A study found this is when we start to take proper lunch breaks at work, cut back on overtime and also get the right amount of leisure to enjoy our lives.
60 With more time to relax and no worries about pregnancy, it seems making love continues to be a popular pastime in the later years. Thirty-seven per cent of married people over 60 make love once a week or more, and 16 per cent make love several times a week, according to research.
63 Sixty-three years and one month is the age when women finally start to take things easy and retire if they are still working, according to the Department for Work and Pensions. Men keep earning until they are 64 and seven months.
65 It seems we never lose hope in love. A study by Age UK found that almost one in ten single people over 65 are keen to embark on a new sexual relationship. If they are already in a relationship, one in eight — 12 per cent — said they would like to try new things in bed with their partner.
82 Average female life expectancy is now up to 82.9 years — a rise of nearly 12 months compared to 2007 and nearly four years more than men.

source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3001438/The-ages-define-life-woman-new-study-reveals-female-milestones.html

***


so i am left with 52 years to go.. not too long nor short.. hmm.

the little camper was in my bed this morning. again.

anyway, she has been on most nights for the past week - with her blanket and the huge bear.

this time round, she really had something important to tell me at 5.39am. 

she babbled and babbled.. i was afraid if i opened my eyes, she will never close her's again. but she was not giving up. she patted my shoulders and tried to pry open my eyes.. O.o

ok fine. maybe she was just asking me if she could sleep with us. 

with half-opened eyes, i asked her what she wanted. i gave her a kiss and told her to go back to sleep. the next moment i peeped at her, she was fast asleep again.

why am i aching and feeling bruised today...

the past few days have been a whirlwind. 

i wanted time to pass quickly and yet i dreaded the inevitable moment. 

i wanted to grieve and yet i do not want rosanne to be affect by my sadness.

i am glad that her sufferings are over and yet i miss her badly.

***

26 feb.

你已向蓝天百云飘去。

***

這一生最美的祝福

在無數的黑夜裡
我用星星畫出你
你的恩典如晨星
讓我真實的見到你
在我的歌聲裡
我擁音符讚美你
你的美好是我今生頌揚的


這一生最美的祝福
就是能認識主耶穌
這一生最美的祝福
就是能信靠主耶穌
走在高山深谷
他會伴我同行
我知道這是最美的祝福

***

大哥哥和二哥哥常常調皮搗蛋惹她生氣。
有一次她忍得不可忍，在我面前把他們訓了一頓。
過了一會兒， 她把我拉到一旁，靜悄悄地問我：
“你有沒有被嚇到？我會不會罵得太兇？”

她讓我看到做父母的苦心。

*

she once caught her sons folding paper tissue flowers with me instead of revising their work.

she was upset and reprimanded them. they went back to the room and she went back to the kitchen.

shortly later, she emerged with a much larger paper tissue flower than the ones her sons have folded.

and we all ended up folding flowers. 

this is her. 

always finding fun and it was fun being around her.

*

it is easy to laugh and be happy when you have everything.
but will you still smile when life is hard and bitter?

她这一生，過著簡單的生活。
天天不停的在她縫衣機忙，就是為了糊口、把儿子养大。
但她从来不怨言，还常常笑口常开。

她教会了我什麼是苦中作樂。

*

i will always remember the lessons you have taught me and i will never forget you.
rest in peace.

class #eight

the little girl is getting a little more confident.

there are two cards - one with a picture printed on it and one is blank. with both facing downwards, she had to pick out the picture card. this week when i asked her which is the picture card, she said "neh" loudly and pointed to the card confidently! hahaha..

this week, she also manage to point to the correct picture. her teacher would flash a picture for a few seconds. then later would put side by side with another similar looking picture and she had to choose which was the picture that was flash previously. for two weeks in the row, she manage to pick out the right one. this week, i am more impressed because i dont even know which is the correct one.. hehehe..

but i am still no able to get her to do the linking memory... *meh..

the silver lining of being sick.

was sick for couple of days already and i thought i better take a break and visit the doctor before i get worse.
 though i am still pretty worried about the upcoming deadlines, well, i think in exchange for the following photos, i think its quite worth it. =)

the up and coming model.

lol.

my little reindeer.

sorry for the spam.

but how can someone look so cute just posing with hands behind.