on my way home now after the shichida parent education class. glad that i was able to make it in the end cus it gave me an answer to the thing I had in my mind for days.

so this was what happened.. on sunday i tore a light stick out of her hand to force her to share it with her cousins. at that moment, i was just so upset that my kid is selfish and cant seems to make her share no matter how i tried to make her.

it wasn't till when i was lying in bed going to sleep i saw my actions. what i did was horrible and i felt bad. i felt that yes i have to teach my selfish kid to share but i do not think my action showed her how. i was bullying her to make her share.

action speaks louder than words.

but before i go on, i must say that i do not see snatching and not sharing the same problem. snatching is plain rude. yah, she snatched things she wants which we have since taught her to say please if she wants something though it is still a work in progress but i am not talking about that today. 

the past few days i have been reading articles online to find ways to deal with a selfish child and how to make them share - 11 Ways to Teach Your Child to Share.

after reading, it pretty sums up that the little girl is at that phrase when she starts to understand possession and developing a strong sense of self. she is at the phrase when "selfish" steps in. and they only can learn what sharing really is when they are about six (today, at shichida, their research found that kids before six are just mirroring what they see). now, they will share because they are taught to do so. the more i read i more worse i felt.

she cannot help it that she does not want to share - her brain has not develop the sharing part yet. and me, the adult whom she should be trusting the most, instead of understanding her and helping her, I SNATCH A TOY FROM HER! man, what i have i done.. #welldonemama

i did not showed her how to share, instead, i showed she how to snatch. #badmama

today at the shichida method, we were taught that children before six learn through mirror/reflecting others. and they encourage parents to use love to teach the children.

thinking about it now, the things she does not share are things she really like. she does "share" sour strawberries and biscuits which she had ate a few times before. hahaha. so maybe she is not that hopeless in sharing. today i am encouraged to continue to slowly grow my rosanne-plant. i am going to try their method to help rosanne and hopefully it works. =)


anyway this is a photo of her this morning to make this otherwise only-words-post more interesting.. lol.

thats her taking a long long long time to put the four coins into her piggy bank. 

cant believe she actually said 'bear' when i asked her if she wants anything from her bed.
she is learning heaps and bounds nowadays!
my baby, can you stop growing already.. ^.^