try this!

this is interesting : Can You Read People’s Emotions?

i scored 33/36!
i think its all the "lie to me" and recently the "读心神探" that i am having lately... =)))

the ones that i could not get right was worried, nervous and skeptical..

someone fresh out from the laundry.. =) 

look how shinny his coat of brown fur and his blow-dry tuff of hair!

and and and he smells not of drool (not mine =P) anymore! 

all ready for tomorrow bump's photography! 

*EXCITED-NESS!

this was staring at me when i was having my daily dose of gossip...

world's first ever pair of platinum stilettos by Christian Louboutin.. 

when can i ever own a pair of Louboutin's? 

*dreaming

source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2448298/House-Borgezie-platinum-stilettos-make-Louboutins-bargain.html

10 things people asked about my bump...

friends, family and people around me has been asking me so many question about my pretty bump and i thought it would be nice to write them down and laugh about them when i reminisce about being pregnant with my first baby... =)

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1. is it a boy or girl? 

this is the #1 question usually people will ask.. and with a smile i will say... its a girl! :)

2. when is the EDD? 

the second favourite question usually people like to ask. 14 November 2013..

with just 37 days to go (or maybe lesser, see #7 below).. i am really getting anxious. =(

3. have you all thought of a name yet?

i dread this question the most cus we have not come up with a name we both like. its not like we have not thought about it yet. 

just to let you know, when we wake up early on weekends, the first thing was to reach for the dictionary beside the bed and start flipping and sometimes we stay up discussing possible names that we did not realise it already 2am on a weekday night.... her name is one of the things that keeps us up at night and the last thing we have on our mind when we fall asleep.. 

so kindly dont say things like, why dont you think of a name earlier? o.O

anyway if you really have to know, i really like the name danielle yeo zhi xuan (智萱). but the hubs was concern that the 萱 do not have much meaning which i agree. but i feel 智 goes with 萱 the best... so we are in a fix, still. 

4. is she moving a lot?

YES! i have also notice that her movements varies in different trimester. 

i started to feel her move about at 17-18th weeks but i did not know what it was.. it was ticklish and i tot was my organs since she is growing bigger. then at the 20th week scan, i felt the same ticklish thingy. the sonographer pointed to her screen and say, look, that is her moving, can you feel it? 

ohhhh...... okie... so thats her and not my intestines... hahahaha... anyway those movements are what they call the "butterfly kicks".. it really feels like fluttering of a butterfly wings. :)

then starting around the 20th week.. i started to feel her kicks.. real kicks like kungfu kicks. sometimes so violent, my belly has bumps coming out.. from then, i cut back on my sugar and, not sure if thats the reason, she wasnt so violent. 

though i have started playing music for her much earlier but its only around the 22nd week, she got more "responsive" to them. maybe she was getting bigger so i could feel her better or something.. she response more to instrumental pieces most of the time. but there was once the dodo was playing some canto pop and she started to get like really excited inside. hahaha.. not sure if she likes or hates it but the dodo insist that she likes it just like her dad..

around the 25th week, i also found out that if i put pressure on top of my tummy she will move a lot! as if to have more space.. hahahaha.. 

slowly, those kungfu kicks got lesser and those long and stretching movements got more frequent. nowadays, when she moves, my belly moves with her... 

recently, she has also started to kick her legs upwards (she has turned down), causing me to have sudden intense feeling to empty my stomach contents.. =S

5. do you have any food cravings?

YES! and mostly of the things her dad likes to eat. =)

to add to the list, i found out the reason why i cant seem not to choose honeydew/rock melon every time when i buy fruits for my tea break! cus her daddy likes them too! lol..

6. are you going for a natural birth or c-sect?

people who asked this are usually the young mummies... :)

i am hoping that everything will go well for me & baby, to have a natural birth :) so keep us in your prayers okie? 

7. is she heavy?

she measured about 2.8kg last saturday during the check up and with still five weeks to go, dr lee changed his mind about minibean being a small baby... 

previous check, he was still confidently telling me, dont worry, your baby is not a big baby.. with your size, two sneeze will come out.. 

last week, i hope your baby can come out around the 38 week, otherwise it would be difficult for you... o.O

AHHHHH..... WHAT HAPPENED!? WHAT DID I EAT?! 

dont worry i am still eating.. i will feel like fainting if i have no food. i just eat in smaller potions, just in case she feels like helping me to empty my stomach.. 

8. do people give up their seats to you on the trains?

fortunately, nowadays yes. =)

honestly, the time i need a seat the most was in the first trimester when i was feeling sick and pukey all the time. but i think i was not showing yet so people may think that i am just fat.. =( 

i will enjoy the seats while i can but really there is more to pregnancy than just seats on the trains.

9. how fast can you walk?

this is a funny question ask by mm last night. actually i also dunno... the speed of my walking depends on my braxton hicks and position of baby.. 

if braxton hicks is acting up.. i think you can say i crawl. but to avoid BA from acting up, i also crawl at a slightly faster pace, just in case... lol

and nowadays, she have this certain position which her head seems to be on my something which making walking quite uncomfortable and a bit painful. so i also crawl at a even slower pace.. 

in comparison, i think my granny with her walking aid moves faster than me... 

10. can i touch?

yes, of course! 

BUT BUT BUT:

• the above does not apply to strangers age above 12. (just because you are on my fb does not make you not a stranger)
• please make sure your hands are clean. my mummy will scold me if my clothes gets dirty.
• please preempt me and dont suddenly just stick your hands out okie... thats rude and scary. 
• unless we are blood related and i see you more than 5 times a year or below 12 or unless i know you from my lucy years. please refrain from putting your ears to the tummy... tyvm.. 
• if not sure, please check first..  =P

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some questions i dont really like: 

are you sure you should be doing this? / can you really eat that?

YES! i am sure! 

i know my body the best and i know what it can take and what it cant. i also believe to eat everything in moderation and not to touch raw food and ensure that the food is clean to my best knowledge.. thats the believe of my gynae too! 

we have also checked with the gynae before we travelled overseas. so those who were worried about me/baby, thank you very much. =) and as you all can see, she is still in my belly...


have you got insurance?

it isnt that that bad if it is not the very first question you have for me the first time you see me pregnant and you are an insurance agent. i already feel like a cow.. i do not need to feel like your cash cow.. tyvm.

we finally meet up after almost a year! 

missed you girls so much! =)

Date a Girl Who Reads - Rosemarie Urquico

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve. 

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn. 

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book. 

Buy her another cup of coffee. 

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice. 

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does. 

She has to give it a shot somehow. 

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world. 

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two. 

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series. 

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are. 

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype. 

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots. 

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads. 

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

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though i am not a guy and way past the dating phrase but it reminds me when i was much younger and nerdy. was always armed with at least 2 story books in my school bag.. most of the time are fairy tales filled with princesses fighting the evil witches and of happy endings.

i am still trying to make my life like my favourite book, ella enchanted.. =P

just something sweet to share and TGIF everyone!

the hubs posted this on my fb and i am suppose to read it... but but but.... its in chinese!! *meh..
he says that if i dont read it.. next time dont blame him if i cant slim again... T.T
fine! i read........... slowly.......


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坐月子的方法，难怪她身材那么好! 

作者庄淑芹博士，是台湾著名的妇产科专家。她提出，女性在一生中有三次机会可以调整自己的体型，使之恢复青春、美丽与健康，那就是初潮期、生产后、更年期。这里最重要的就是生产后这个阶段。这个时期，你的身体就好像一个打开的大门，可以把怀孕时积累的多余的积水和毒素(这也是产后发胖的主要原因)排出体外，然后通过正确的补养使你的身体更健康。 （女的可以收藏，男的转给自己的爱人）

1、坐月子三阶段：一排二调三补

具体是将产后一个月按周划分，每周根据需要，吃不同的食品：

第一周，主要是要把多余的水分和毒素以及恶露排出体外，每天喝生化汤，吃麻油炒猪肝。注意不能喝水(否则排水的效果就没了)，渴了就喝止渴饮料，如荔枝核、山楂片等，或煮开的米酒。任何菜都不能放水，用米酒煮开代替。不能放盐(盐会使水分停留在身体里)，不能放醋(醋会使骨质变软)，不能放酱油(道理同盐)。

第二周，主要增强骨质和腰肾的功能，恢复骨盆。每天吃炒腰子和杜仲粉，有助于缓解尾椎骨等骨疼;(另：如果是剖腹产，还要再喝一周生化汤)。禁忌同上，也不要吃咸菜，泡菜，味曾汤。

第三周到一个月，这时候，该排的已经排完，主要吃麻油鸡补身体。千万记得，排完毒素后吃麻油鸡才能被身体吸收，否则堆积在身体里，成为多余的脂肪。 因为前期身体虚弱，中医讲虚不受补，吃了吸收不了，只会加重身体的负担。 　　

以上所有的食物，都要用到大量的米酒(不能用料酒和黄酒，里面含盐且工艺不同)，生姜，胡麻油，红糖。 

2、 同时，坐月子期间，不能吹风，着凉。

要穿有后帮的鞋(不能穿拖鞋，否则落下脚后跟疼的毛病)。洗脸用煮过的米酒放温后洗，不要洗澡，同样用煮过的米酒擦身。绑腹带，最好自己喂奶，对身体的恢复会更好。出了月子之后再开始运动，等等，不一而足。 

我自己生小孩前110斤，生的时候135斤。小孩生下来8斤5两，生完4天时，113斤，出月子时就恢复到110斤。但是这时的体形很松跨，没有肌肉，肚子松松的。不过自己带小孩很累，加上偶尔的锻炼(抽时间锻炼也不容易啊)，6个月后，体重已经变成98磅，体形也慢慢恢复好了，别人都看不出我生过小孩。没有胯变宽之类的后遗症，但是肚子上的妊辰纹消不下去了。 

快生的时候腿已经有了浮肿，手关节也有些疼和肿大，但是坐完月子后，基本上就好了。生完后，尾椎骨疼，在第二个礼拜吃完杜仲粉后，也好了。 

有人觉得不吃盐太难了，其实我自己平时吃饭口味就淡，月子期间不吃盐也没觉得怎样。想想为了以后的健康和身材，一个月不吃盐又算什么呢?总比减肥舒服吧。 　　

坐月子的生活

1、安静休养30-40天

产后最重要的一件事即为「休息」，在这段期间内，产妇周围的亲戚，如娘家的母亲与姊妹、夫家的亲属、当然还有丈夫等，都应同心协力的来照顾产妇，不让她离开房间、不让她起身做任何劳动、不分贫富、或者第几次生产，甚至是小产，都一定要同样的慎重!自然生产者须休养三十天，剖腹产、自然流产或人工流产者，更须延长休养的天数至四十天以上! 　　

2、卧床二周

产后二周内为子宫收缩最快速的时候，此时因怀孕时子宫被胎儿撑得非常大，一但生产，子宫成为真空状态，内脏因不再受压迫而变的非常松垮，若产后即常坐起或走动，因地心引力的关系，将造成松垮的子宫及内脏收缩不良，引起内脏下垂，而「内脏下垂」就可能是所有妇女病的根源。所以产后二周内，除了吃饭及上厕所之外，其余时间，不论是白天或是晚上，均应卧床休息。 　　

3、勤绑腹带防止「内脏下垂」并「收缩腹部」

利用生产的机会来调整体型，或者改善身体上的一些症状，是一个很重要的时机，所以很多人会在这段期间用纱布条绑腹，达到调整体型的目的!

坐月子期间必须特别注意防止「内脏下垂」，因内脏下垂可能为所有「妇女病」及「未老先衰」的根源，并会因此而产生小腹，故在坐月子期间须勤绑腹带以收缩腹部并防止内脏下垂，而若原本即为内脏下垂体型者，亦可趁坐月子期间勤绑腹带来改善。

所使用的腹带为一条很长的白纱带，长约1200公分，宽为15公分，每人须准备二条以便替换。因产后须热补，容易流汗，若汗湿时应将腹带拆开，并将腹部擦干，再洒些不带凉性的痱子粉后重新绑紧。若汗湿较严重时，则须更换干净的腹带，绑法请参考「腹带的绑法」。如果使用一般一片粘的束腹或束裤，不仅没有防止内脏下垂的效果，反而有可能压迫内脏令气血不通畅，使内脏变形或产生胀气而造成呼吸困难或下腹部突出的体型，请特别注意! 

4、严禁洗头，但需用正确的方法清洁头皮

怀孕期间子宫增加的负担是不可言喻的，单看之前与之后子宫的大小就知道，因此，在生产后要使子宫尽快恢复原状。而要想子宫尽快的恢复功能，最重要的便是要将子宫内的污血完全排出，如果能使子宫成为真空状态，则贺尔蒙的分泌将会特别活跃，子宫的功能亦会比怀孕前更好!而洗头，将会严重影响产后恶露的排除，只要头皮一受凉，子宫里的污血马上会凝结成血块不易排出，就算马上吹干也不允许，况且用吹风机来吹头，是很容易引起头风及头痛的。而子宫内的废血若不清除干净，就很有可能会造成荷尔蒙不平衡以及内分泌不协调，进而产生许多并发的症状，所以产后三十天须绝对遵守不要洗头，以免后患无穷! 　　

5、二周内不可洗澡，但需用正确的方法擦澡

为了避免受凉，产后两周内不可洗澡，但要用正确的方法擦澡，第三周起可淋浴，满月后方可泡澡。

6、不可吹风，不论是热风或冷风

产后全身的毛细孔，包括头皮的毛细孔都是张开的，此时一吹到风，不论是热风或冷风，毛细孔就会立刻收缩，很容易造成筋骨酸痛、头痛、头风，甚至感冒。

7、要有舒适的环境，室温维持在摄氏25-28度 

产妇要有舒适的环境，所以夏天太过炎热、或者冬天太冷，均需开空调让室温维持在摄氏25-28度之间，但却要注意不可以吹到风!所以一定要想办法将空调的风完全挡住，不可对着产妇吹，而且产妇须穿长裤、长袖、戴帽子、手套、围巾，并且穿袜子来挡风! 

8、不可碰冷水 

产妇不可碰冷水，以防受凉或产生酸痛的现象，所以举凡擦澡、洗脸、洗手、刷牙或产后第三周以后的冲澡，均需使用热水。

9、不可抱小孩 

产后最重要的工作无它，就是安心下来，尽情的吃和睡。此时全身的机能均在迅速的恢复中，所以当然不可提重物，更不可抱小孩，否则极易产生内脏下垂的体型。况且，新生的婴儿，骨骼、内脏均尚未发育完全，最好还是尽量让他睡觉，常抱他只会对他造成不良影响。 

10、侧躺喂奶

至于喂母奶时，也要侧躺在床上，将婴儿放于身侧让他吸奶，产妇可以斜靠，并在婴儿及产妇的背面各放一个大枕头支撑，但要注意不要堵住婴儿的鼻子，以免窒息。

11、关于母乳

每一个女人于生产完后，一定都会分泌母乳，母乳的分泌应是很充足的，但若不给婴儿吸食，就无法再分泌出来，即使婴儿一次就全部吸光，母乳的供应仍是源源不绝，因为这是母体的本能。所以若不给婴儿吃母乳，当然是很不好的。若是婴儿的吃奶量很少，则应将每次剩下的母乳都充分挤掉，以刺激下次乳房分泌足够的乳量。

产妇若因故临时不亲自喂奶，也要把积存于乳房中的奶挤掉，旧奶积存于乳房会使乳房产生硬块或导致乳腺炎，最好在产后的六个月中都能充分的授乳，这是最顺乎自然的育儿原则，不但能保护母亲，而且可减少日后发生乳癌的机会。

如果奶水清淡或不足，不妨于产后第三周起补充花生猪脚;而为了要让产后奶水快速分泌，可于产后第一时间施行"按电铃"(刺激乳头)的功课。

12、不可替小孩洗澡

前面强调月子期间不可抱小孩，相同的道理当然更不可以弯着腰来替小宝贝洗澡，如果无法做到，那么产后腰酸背痛及手脚酸麻的现象必定会随之而来，所以最好在产前就安排好小婴儿的照顾，或者跟先生商量，产后由先生来帮小贝比洗澡，如此还能增进亲子之间的感情呢! 

13、不提重物，不爬楼梯

产后半年内均不可提太重的物品，以避免内脏下垂而导致腰酸背痛，而于月子期间爬楼梯更应禁止。

14、不可流泪

女性的老化从眼睛开始，所以产后眼部的保养是非常重要的。产妇严禁流泪，俗云：「产妇一滴泪比十两黄金还贵重」，所以伤感的事，如亲朋好友亡故等不幸的事情，绝不能让产妇知道，不能让她流泪，做丈夫的也应该在此时扛起所有的责任，让产妇能安心静养。

产妇如果哭泣的话，眼睛会提早老化，有时会演变为眼睛酸痛、青光眼或白内障的起因。当然，产妇本人也要尽量努力使自己心情开朗，不要担心杂事，要常常微笑，保持心情愉快。 

15、不可看电视及书报杂志

产妇应尽量少看电视及书报，如果一定要看，则每十五分钟须让眼睛休息十分钟。最好能多听听轻柔的音乐，一方面让眼睛充分的休息，一方面可调整情绪，消除神经紧张。

16、眼部按摩

眼睛容易疲劳的产妇，可于三餐饭前及睡前将毛巾沾上热水(可稍热些)，拧干后以毛巾热敷于眼部数分钟，再施行眼部按摩。

总结做月子要点：

1. 月子里一定要吃的淡，能不放盐和味精就不放，因为宝宝的肾脏还没发育完全，这对奶水的质量和妈妈的体重都有直接关系，快坚持不下去时，想到自己的身材和宝宝，也就忍啦;
2. 前两周以排毒为主(猪肝和腰子有助排毒)，一定不能吃大补和大热的东东(如桂园和蹄膀等)，因为新妈妈经过生育，整个人非常虚弱，这时候大补不但吸收不到精华，且只会长膘，而且这时候长得膘很难减掉，热性的食物对奶水也不好，宝宝吃了容易便秘;
3. 尽量用麻油炒菜，麻油有削减脂肪的功效，比一般食用油不长脂;
4. 水果一定不能忘，但是前两周也不能大补，道理和2是一样的，多吃些哈密瓜、木瓜、葡萄等，西瓜什么的不要急着吃，因为西瓜太凉性;
5. 任何冷的流质食物都要加热后再吃，否则不利于子宫归位，不能刺激肠胃;
6. 第4周开始可以补力气了(如鸡肉等)，第二个月开始和大家一样吃，但还是要注意清淡，否则宝宝受不了，自己也容易肿;
7. 任何要加糖的点心食物都采用红糖，有助于恶露排出;
8. 月子里早餐主食是糯米稀粥;中餐主食是薏米饭(薏米有排水消肿的效果的)不吃大米;晚餐主食是鱼汤。鱼汤(老姜用麻油爆的起皮后再煎鱼块，鱼用肉质松软的鱼，加水煮熟，到鱼汤变白即可)，淡的，奶水好的小秘诀哦;
9. 水份的补充：多喝豆浆，多吃冬瓜对无论是孕期还是产妇都有减肥和减肿得功效，还能提高奶水的质量;米酒煮开代替水喝，将米酒煮开之后，让酒精全部蒸发掉即可。
10. 勤做产后恢复操.